What Is Your Inner Child? (+ How To Connect With It)

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Growing up, I (Peter) was a shy kid and never felt comfortable in my own skin. I struggled with self expression and my self esteem was extremely low. I didn’t have any confidence in myself and for the first 3 decades of my life, my quality of life was extremely low.

I was afraid of a lot of things, but most of all, I was afraid of anything that was unfamiliar to me because of how uncomfortable and insecure it made me feel about myself.

Having battled through years of chronic anxiety, fatigue, depression and addictions, I believed what I was thinking and feeling about myself was “just the way it was” and that I had to learn to live with it.

It wasn’t until I started to question my beliefs that I noticed a shift in my perspective. I became less critical of myself and more curious to discover WHY I felt the way I did about myself.

When I started my brave journey to self discovery at the age of 30, I began to look at myself as the *observer* of my thoughts and feelings.


I started to learn about the concept of the “inner child” and it’s since opened up a path to healing parts of me that had been suppressed due to experiencing unwanted hurt and pain as a child: namely abandonment by my father and growing up in environments around alcoholism + domestic violence.

Now I can understand why my inner child resorted to the coping mechanisms they did for all of those years. This brought more awareness to why I held certain beliefs + embodied certain behaviors.

With this awareness I started to have more compassion for my inner child, which allowed me to build a rapport and connection that I never had with myself before. I became more aware of what my inner child's needs were, therefore I started to feel more comfortable in my own skin.

I began embodying the person I was underneath all of those layers of conditioning and it feels amazing! That’s the power of inner child work.

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Your Inner Child Is:

The part of you that still experiences life as a child.

This includes your hopes, dreams, creativity, innocence, and wonder.

The part of you that holds onto the past.

This includes a lot of pain and wounding from your childhood.

The part of you that feels misunderstood by others.

All they want is to be seen, heard, and validated by you.

The part of you that craves love and affection.

All they want is your unconditional love. They need to know that your love doesn’t need to be earned.

The part of you that is afraid of being judged by others.

All they want is to be accepted by you. They need you to be brave, believe in their hopes and dreams, and remind them that they are already enough.




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